I know it is a little bit too late to say
this, but I am going to say this anyway: HAPPY NEW YEAR 2013 to you all !!! May
this year brings you a lot of joy, prosperity, and health. God bless you, my
friend.
Anyway, new year is always identical with
resolution and resolution is identical with dreams. I have resolution for this year, which is to update my blog with
one article each month! (My God, please help me do this). What about you? What
is your resolution this year? What is your dream? It could be you want to get a new job. Or maybe
you plan to lose some weight? Or maybe you plan to start a new business? It
could be anything. However, time flies. Most of us will not realize until
December comes. And then we start to panic because our January's resolution
gone with the wind.
1. Start with a Small Step
Two guys went for a fishing. One big guy
and one small guy. They started to fish at the same time, they were looking for
fish because they want to have dinner. After few hours, the big
guy successfully caught a fish. A small one.
The big guy said, "Argh, this fish is
too small. I have a big stomach, I will not be satisfied with this."
So he throw it away.
Not long after that, the small guy caught
a small fish, and he said, "Oh! A small fish! Thank You Lord, now I have
something to eat for dinner." He put the fish in a bucket and put the bait
back in the water.
It happened for hours after hours until
dinner time came. The small guy's bucket filled with a lot of fishes, even
though they were the small ones. The big guy's bucket was empty! Because he was
busy trying to find a big fish!
The point is, that is what we do in our
daily life. We try to find a big fish and we do not pay enough attention for
the small ones. What is your resolution? Take a small step, my friend.
A friend of mine, on 2011 he said that he
wanted to quit his job and started his own restaurant. A big one with a lot of
variety of foods, Japanese, Korean, Indonesian, American, etc. He wanted to
hire some chefs from outside the country. Yet it never happened. A few months
later he said that he wanted to do another business, which is importing
furnitures from China because furnitures were so cheap in there and he could
gain a lot of profit by selling back it here. He had the money and he said he
could get millions dollar of profit. Up until now, none of his plan were done.
Big is good. There is nothing wrong by
planning to do something big. But your first step is even more important. You
want to lose weight, then walk in the morning for 30 minutes or go to the gym.
You do not have to buy those 1 million rupiah shoes but you never made it to
the gym. You want to quit cigarette then replace it with bubble gum or some
candies to take your attention away. You want to start a new business, then
start it with small business. Just like people said, “When you do something
small, you made small mistakes. When you jump straight into something big, you
made big mistakes.”
So, what is your dream? What is your
first step?
2. Plant Now, Harvest Later
I have a friend who is a heavy smoker. In
January, he said one day to me that he wants to quit. I said, "Oh good! Do
it, mate!"
He said, "I will! Do not worry about
it. I will not touch it anymore. I will put it away."
After a few months, I saw him, smoking by
himself. He said, "Martin, I can not quit now. I have so many problems in
the office. I can not quit."
Two months after that, I saw him again
with a cigarette in his hand, this time he said, "I will quit
later, I just can not quit now. The fact is I still have a lot of problems with
my family which make my head going crazy! You know when everything calms down ,
I will quit! You know I will and you know I can. I will throw it away and I
will burn it down. No more cigarettes!"
In December end, near Christmas day, I ran
into him again and he had not quit yet.
It did not surprise me. Because he simply
never started. He waited for perfect conditions to start. I believe that
imperfect condition is the the perfect moment. If you want to be a singer, then
now is your perfect moment. If you want to be a guitar player, then now is your
perfect moment. If you want to start a new business, then now is your perfect
time!
Another example is this, my friend who is
a woman said to me that she was so fed up with her boss.
“Martin, I’m sick with my job! I have had
enough with my boss!”
“Hmmm.. so what are you going to do? Quit?
“Of course! I don’t have any reason to
stay.”
“Okay.. What are you going to do after
that?”
“I am going to start my own online shop!”
“Okay.. What kind of shop?”
“Handbag shop!”
“Do you have the name for this shop?”
“Yes!”
“Do you know where to get the handbags?”
“Yes!”
“Do you know the distributor? The price?”
“Yes! Yes!”
“Do you have any market share? Will you
sell it on facebook? Will you sell it on twitter?”
“Yes! Yes! Yes!”
“Alright that’s great! Then when are you
going to start?”
“Hmmm.. maybe 3 or 4 years later after I’m
getting married.”
After getting married she thought it would
be a perfect condition , a perfect moment. But again, perfect condition was
created by you. Yes , YOU !!! If you wait, most likely you will find another
excuse not to do something you want.
European’s bear, they go for hunting in
summer. Why? Because they do not want to be starving in winter. They stock and
pile up their foods, when winter comes, they are hiding, hibernating, and not
starving. They already ‘plant’ in the summer, so they do not panic in winter.
Country with different seasons such as
European countries, US, and Australia, people in that countries, prepare for
winter in the summer. In summer, they put discount on coat, jacket, and
everything you need for winter. So they stock up and pile up, come winter
everything is prepared!
Once upon a time, there were 2 farmers;
farmer A and farmer B. Farmer A said, “Hey let’s fill this field with corn
seeds!”
“Agree!” Farmer B answered.
“Wait , wait , wait B... Look at the sky!
There are so many birds. Nah I don’t feel like it. There won’t be any chances
we could grow these seeds in a condition like this. Let’s wait for next month!”
“No, A! Give me the seeds. I will plant it
now!”
Farmer A gave the seeds to B, “Do whatever
you want!”
Short story, B started to spread the seeds
on the field. Of course some of the seeds were eaten by the birds. But B never
gave up, he kept on trying to push the birds away. Day in, day out he never
gave up! He always put himself on the field. On the contrary, A was busy too.
But he was busy with newspaper and television! He tried to find out about everything
from the news. He was so worried about weather, plagued, fertilizer’s price,
etc.
After a few months, came harvest time. B had
corns to harvest! He sold it and got money. While A got nothing and bite his
nail. Simply, because he wait for everything to be perfect! And perfect
condition will never came! I read this once in a newspaper : “There’s always
something wrong even in a place you thought was right.”
I remember when I was about to release my
first hand-writing, I was so afraid. I was so afraid about my friends response,
my family response, and people response in general. I was so afraid with my
English. I was so afraid with my grammar. Yet, I kept on writing. Am I perfect
now? No. Not at all, but I decided to do it anyway. Back then, I was so afraid
to swim. I was afraid that I would be drown if I went into the swimming pool.
Yet, I swim now. I was so afraid to drive a car back then. I could not see
other cars behind me, I could not park, but I kept on driving and now I can
drive! I remember when I got my guitar for my birthday’s gift, I was afraid to
play it. I was afraid that I am going to sound absurd (which I was!) but I
never stopped there. I kept on practising and now I am sound better!
So, when are you going to start?
3. 1000 Failures = 1 Success
Michael Jordan is a legend. A legend in a
basketball game. He used to play for Chicago Bulls. Even for those of you who
do not like basketball, maybe you heard his name because he was so famous.
Anyway, do you know how he could became a
legend? He trained so hard! That is true. He trained with his eyes closed while
doing free throws. It was true that his training made him a legend. But, there
is something else, he became a legend because he failed many times! Let me give
you the statistics:
·
He missed
more than 9.000 shots in his career!
·
He
lost almost 300 games in his entire career!
·
26
times his friend trusted him to do the winning shot and he missed!
He said: “I failed over and over and over
again, and that is why I succeed. I can accept failure, everyone
fails at something. But I can't accept not trying.”
Colonel Sanders offered his recipe into
more than 1.000 restaurants before finally there was one restaurant who wanted
to use it. If he gave up at 999 times of trying than we will not be able to eat
KFC these days.
Thomas Alfa Edison failed 10.000 times,
well some people said he failed 1.000 times and his lab even burnt down. But,
he never quit. Imagine if he was a quitter. We will live in a dark today.
What is your dream? Do you have the will
to start it all over again?
When I was in Australia, I went to church
on Sunday for Mass. Well, ninety or ninety-five percent of the church filled
with old people (no offence). Nothing wrong with the old people though. However,
it made me thinking, it also reminded me about dream. All of us will grow old.
I will be old one day. My hair turns white, my skin wrinkles, my eyes will not
cooperate so well with me anymore, my ears will not hear so good anymore. When
I looked at those old people, maybe they were thinking: “I wish I was a singer.”;
“I wish I was a book writer.”; “I wish I was a football player.”; “I wish I was
a doctor.”; “I wish I was a swimmer.” I thought that how sad there were so many
songs never sung, so many books never written, so many goals never scored, so
many business never started. All those dreams just grow old and die and gone
away with us when we leave this world. Friends, all of us will grow old, but
for our dreams, we have a choice to let it grow old or grow up. Do not let your
dreams grow old and die and you buried it away with you.
God bless you as always :)
-M-
