A few months ago, I joined an IELTS course. It's a simple preparation for the real test of an IELTS. Why I said simple? Because it was just one week. One week that I'll never forget in my life. One week that I learn so much from it.
Don't ask me how many people in the class, because I forget already, maybe ten or more..or less. Don't even ask their names, because I only remember some. But the one that I shall never forget is Jonathan. The teacher.
After a few days of the class he asked the class "Who has facebook account?" , almost everyone of us raised our hand.
And then he said "I don't have one.." , I surprised by that and I asked him "Why not , Jon?".
He answered "What is the purpose to have one?".
I said "Well.. U can stay connected to some of Your old friends. Meet somebody new. Keep contact is the main point."
The shocking answered come out from him "For me I don't have old friends.. I put an expire date to all my friends.. So basically when they're gone..they're just gone..byebye.. no need to know anymore. Maybe I'm just an anti-social. I don't know.." and then he laughed.
Until today, I still remember what he said. I still think about the expire date on a friend..or friends. Sometimes I think that he is right. Sometimes I think he is just so wrong. When in my 6th grade, I have a best friend. Well..she WAS my best friend. We sat near each other in the class. That's why we became so close to each other. We always shared some stories everyday. We went to the cafetaria together, we laughed together, and sometimes I shared my food with her. The funny thing is that sometimes we even cheated in the test..together. But in 7th grade, we went to a different school and she just left. Some people said she went to America. I don't know either. She just left. Not telling me anything, not even trying to contact me. That was like 10 or 9 years ago.
Since last year, I have become an active member of this social network, facebook. When I remembered about her, I searched her..typed in the name and.. found !! I add her with a smiling face. It's right that she IS in America !! Oh I'm so excited. She's still look the same and I sent her a message, asked if she still remember me.. Guess what.. until I write down this journal she never accepted me.. and the last time I checked, she ignored me. The message? She never replied it.
The second is that I have this best friend of mine but then again yeah she WAS my best friend. Our friendship is like 8 or 9 years. Yes it's a long time for a friendship. At least in my opinion. She went to America too (what's wrong with these girls.. why do they go to the same country I wonder..) , but we still contact each other. After a few years, things started to change. She has been in US for like 4 or 5 years up until now. At first, we still talked much. But now..not anymore. For the last 4 or 5 months, I don't even know who she is. She looks not the way she should be anymore. We never talk anymore. She never try to contact me..and I never try to contact her. Why? Because she is not the girl that I used to know.
I don't know and I'm not about to find out what's wrong with my 1st best friend. Now I feel like..maybe that's what Jonathan means by put an expire date to a friend. Because sometimes they leave. And for my 2nd best friend, she is different because of her friends. The friends that surround her. Let me quote what my mom said to me : "If You have friend who is a fisherman, You will smell like a fish..but if You have friend who is a florist, You will smell like flowers".
Believe me, when it comes to friendship..I'm not good at it. I don't even know what kind of friends I am. The good one, the bad one..the so-so one. I don't know. In the end, I just know that I'm not a perfect person and so anybody else. At least that's what I learn from all this things that have happened in my life. Nobody is perfect. Not even the one that we call 'best friend'. They won't be there 24/7 to hear You out. They won't always be there for You. They won't be someone that You expect them to be. They won't help You all the time. And the worst part is.. sometimes they just go. Being somebody's else best friend. Or maybe..sometimes it is we that leave someone..and being somebody's else best friend. Let me remind You..there's nothing wrong with that.
I don't understand either why God put someone in my life and in the end they leave me. But I know that it is not a coincidence. There's always something to learn..to be a better person and to understand, we have to go the right way. And that's why we need Him. Beacause He is our real best friend.. He understands us..guides us..protects us.. and always be there for us. No matter where we are. And I believe that He will never put an expire date on us.
-M-
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